It is clear that quite often affairs of the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law leave much to be desired. In one families mutual hostility becomes so trivial that it is heavy for hiding from the postoroniy. In others military acts carefully disappear under affected smiles and smooth out message attempts peaceful co-existence. Quite often mother of the man and his wife perfectly belong to each other (in particular if the mother-in-law lives separately). There are also cases of sincere sympathy and even love, the clever mother-in-law can become actually «the second mother» or the girlfriend for the daughter-in-law.
How affairs in your case were – it is necessary to give gifts of the mother-in-law. New year, on March 8, and other solemn occasions allow to make birthday again pleasant to the lady who given rise and has grown up your beloved. Not including that which has been successfully picked up and tactfully handed over gift by times it is capable to melt ice between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, to become those the bridge which will be stretched between 2 ladies.
Naturally, to choose such gift that it was really pleasant and remembered, hardly. But after all it is that costs! We will try to help you with this printsipny and difficult question.
So, what is necessary to consider, studying shops in search of a gift for the mother-in-law?
Council the 1st
Even if you have very intense affairs, for a choice of a gift forget about all offenses. Remember only one: you wish to make pleasant to mother own the wife. After all if not it – would not be on light of your beloved! At all this choose a gift not simply for the person, and for the Lady.
Council of the 2nd
Your mother-in-law can belong to one of 2 very widespread categories of mature ladies. Or she considers herself absolutely young and capable beauty in questions to argue with the daughter-in-law, or it does not hesitate of own age and, maybe, even defies it (can be, often expostulates on health and loves that for it felt sorry and felt pity).
In the first case you can please quite easily to the trying to look younger mother-in-law, having presented it qualitative cosmetics, prestigious spirits, accessories or a beautiful blouse. The main thing at all this is as it is possible to know its tastes better. If you friendly communicate with it, it is possible to find out in advance preferences of the mother-in-law by means of leading questions or during joint visit of popular shops. If such way to you is unacceptable – connect to process of a choice of a gift own the wife, he for certain knows something about mother’s tastes or can talk to it on this subject.
For the second option too there are different decisions: down scarf, beautiful comfortable dressing gown, nightgown, warm slippers, plaid or blanket. If the ancient mother-in-law loves books and considers itself as the intelligent lady – discrepancy becomes simpler. To know her beloved of writers enough to go to a bookshop and to get a little not bad editions. As the option can approach an album with reproductions of her loved painters or a collection of disks with favourite classical music (vobshchy, this gift can make happy and the "young" mother-in-law if it is fond of painting or music). And here one more remarkable idea of a gift for starenky ladies: to present it the device for pressure measurement, the air ionizer, a set of oils for a bath, a masseur and to that similar useful things which she hardly will buy for herself.
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Council the 3rd
The choice of a gift depends on that, together with you or separately your mother-in-law lives. If you live one family, absolutely pertinently will present a gift, so to speak, «for the house» – for example, a flower vase, tea or coffee service (only not so elegant and darling and suitable for continuous use), a beautiful flower in a pot. At all this very printsipno обмыслить gift cost: after all you have the general house budget, and very much darling as well as very cheap gift, the mother-in-law that the daughter-in-law or at random squanders means can suggest an idea, or feels sorry for them on a gift for the mother-in-law.
If you live separately, the open space for maneuvers can be wider, beginning from the subjects intended for scenery of an interior (vases, candlesticks, cloths) and finishing cosmetic sets.
Council the 4th
Try not to give anything such that that it loses female appeal can hint directly or indirectly to the mother-in-law. The most part of 40-50 summer ladies are convinced that they still «very much anything» and are capable to give odds young (or not so young) to the daughter-in-law. Therefore do not give the mother-in-law exercise machines, creams from wrinkles and the book «How adequately to meet an old age»! Not the most successful choice – stockings or underwear.
Council the 5th
If you have rather confidential affairs with the mother-in-law, leave prejudices and directly ask about her desires and preferences. «Soon your birthday, very much it would be desirable you to amuse really a suitable and pleasant thing, instead of to hand over a souvenir on duty». Such formulation for certain will be pleasant to the clever and adequate lady. On the truth, to what to it the 2nd coffee grinder or the eighth cloth? It is possible even to go together with it behind a gift: let will choose to itself that it would like. The mother-in-law for certain will estimate the kind relation of the daughter-in-law and desire it to amuse.
What else it is possible to offer options? The set of pans or a frying pan with an antiprigarny covering can be very advantageous gift, but not by March 8, and in other day – by New year, for example.
The "advanced", business mother-in-law can present the new mobile phone, a traveling elegant bag, having added a gift with the beautiful daily log, a card holder or a wallet.
More universal gift suitable actually for all occasions, it is possible to consider beautiful linen for a bed or a set of terry towels, elegant шарфик or a flower vase, not bad coffee or fragrant tea with a box of chocolates (if the state of health of the mother-in-law allows it to drink coffee and there are candies).
If you have such possibility, and you precisely realize that the mother-in-law will estimate a similar gift – present a jewel, for example, a gold bracelet, a pendent or earrings. Anniversary can become more suitable case for such gift.
In any case remember: the gift should become from the heart and be accompanied by the quite good wishes, pleasant words and a smile.