At present even more often people reflect on prevention in different spheres of the life, in other words how to warn, prevent useless acts. Private life is not an exception.
Young pairs pay attention to more and more how to keep proximity and interest in the relations. It is necessary to approach to this question in a complex therefore let’s begin from the very beginning. Here two people get acquainted, they know nothing about each other, they feel an attraction, interest, they are not convinced of feelings and thoughts of another, nokazhdy longs that to it would reciprocate. For this purpose both try to show the best parties, behave in the best way, make pleasant acts for the workmate. They slowly move towards each other and if everything develops safely, there comes proximity, in other words a special unification of souls where games disappear, manipulations and everyone allows another to behold the depth and essence. Over time lovers get used to each other, relax, start to give less attention to the partner, and also affairs, respectively, change. I am convinced that at this stage of the relations the main responsibility lies on the lady. I will explain why. At us, I will give, there is a feature, tendency to be dissolved in other, in particular in the man. Being in the relations, in love, we often forget about ourselves, about the one whom we were to pair creation that we loved, than we lived, what our values and values were. And after all the man fell in love directly with that lady, the lady who had the life. Very printsipno it to consider and about it to hold in the head. To analyse, as from the moment of creation of pair your life exchanged, ask itself the following questions: 1. How you look after the body? How you look behind the health? Whether you try to look in the best way near the man? 2. What occurs in your professional life? How you are realized as the specialist?! How you are happy with the work? Whether your thinking is dependent? 3. How you in contact to, in other words as you feel, the desires, emotions, feelings? When the last time you saw the friends, parents? 4. Whose values and values predominate in your life? How you see the future? How you use the creative potential in the life? Having answered these questions, you practically will understand everything about yourselves. Printsipno to hold in the head that the proximity and interest in pair begin with proximity with itself, interest to and as this proximity is lost by your personality, the machine gun it disappears from your union with another. READ ALSO – How for a long time to keep love? Pair passes 3 steps in an extent of own development, and is direct: attachment stage, stage of differentiation and office stage. At an attachment stage partners as though say each other: "Embrace me!", – they would like to be together always. At a differentiation stage the address changes on "Release me!" and everyone would like to have more personal place, time with itself and other people. At a stage of office of business stop. Perfectly, when partners to a descent are ready to pass on following стадію, and it is still more difficult, if one partner longs to remain in attachment, and another is ready and starts to be differentiated. In particular printsipny aspect is balancing between these 3 stages in different spheres of life, also transition to new higher level of each stage. For example, first the relations the stage of attachment is characterized by that physically pulls pair to each other, both partners have any common interests and joint time. Further there are general plans, later the general house, the general development, the general children. It is growth, pair develops. If it did not happen and partners remained at a stage of a physical attraction, most likely, they quickly "fused" and affairs ended, without having reached a differentiation stage. As to balancing between different spheres of life and interaction stages, here it is necessary to ponder and understand. Here, for example, my man went to business trip to other city. Physically he in an office stage, but at all this it calls and writes, in other words is sensual we in attachment, at this time he thinks of me and about би знесе, about something else, means – mentally it at a differentiation stage. The same occurs and to me. It means that we harmoniously and harmlessly for pair balance between different stages for the sake of our love and partnership. To achieve such harmony – a task not from ordinary. But game costs candles. Love and proximity to your pair!